Steen Visholm

Roskilde University

Denmark

 

Paper prepared for the ISPSO symposium in Stockholm 2007:

 

Leadership, gender and generativity[i]
- a research project on open and hidden family dynamics in organizations

 

Caution: This paper is arranged as material for a power point presentation. It should be read as work in progress and new ideas as well as criticism are welcomed at the presentation.

 

The aim of this paper is ..

- to demonstrate that and how: open and hidden family dynamics are important for the understanding of organizational life and

- to present a research project aimed at finding further evidence for this hypothesis and to discover new links between family and organization

 

Disposition

I.        Links between family and organization

II.       Excursus: Myths, fairytales and metaphors

III.      Extended group and family dynamics

IV.      29 hypothesis

V.       Methodological considerations

VI.      Perspectives

 

II. Links between family and organization - reasons to investigate open and hidden family dynamic in organizations

 

1. Family and organization was once the same

In traditional societies family and workplace was the same[ii].

Parents was ‘leaders’ and had the authority to decide their children’s education, partners and carriers.

The question about heritage was of major importance.

The Oedipus complex is also about this.

 

2. Family as motive for work

Most of the outcome of labour is spend on family and home issues

House, car, schools, kids, food etc. is a measure of job success

 

3. The relation between work role and value as love object

Some work roles seems to ad to or diminish the role holders value as love object

There are (changing) systems of attributions of gender to work roles

There are (changing) systems of attributions of gender to hierarchical positions

 

5. Family as evaluation group - choice of education, work role and partner

Experience from psychotherapy and role analysis seems to reveal that

family interaction and role distribution is shaping the children's ambitions.

The family has a function as both an internal and an external evaluation group[iii] in relation to work life..

 

6. Family as the first ’organization in the mind’

From a system psychodynamic point of view family is the first system we deal with

or the first 'organization in the mind'[iv].

That means that the family is a primary source of transference at the work place.

 

Despite this ….

 

7. Family issues are overlooked in group and organizational literature

Either open or hidden family issues are mentioned in organizational theory[v]

Either open or hidden family issues are mentioned in motivational psychology[vi]

Participants in Group psychology is mostly ageless, sexless and leaderless

 

8. Family issues are overlooked in basic group relations and basic psychodynamic systems thinking

The idea that Oedipus is private/an issue for therapy and Sphinx is public/an issue for work life leaves the group members as individuals with out age and gender[vii].

The group appears as something primary, while it could be argued, that a group is a brotherhood that cannot be understood without sisters, fathers and mothers.

 

Actual reasons to put family on the organizational agenda …..

 

9. The shift in emphasis from role to person in organizations

The decline of the Weberian/Taylorian organizations

brings personality and emotions to the work place[viii],

and opens up the space for psychological processes,

family dynamics, transference and counter transference

 

10. The division of labour between men and women is changing

Rigid patterns of attribution of gender to work and hierarchy roles are loosened.

Sex mixed workplaces increase - mono sex workplaces decrease.

Men and women meet at the work place.

Husband and wife have both carriers and has to share the work at home

 

11. The boundaries between work and family is changing

Management language is adopted in family life[ix] -

the work place becomes more familiar and emotional.

By home work stations and cell phones work life intrude into the family.

By cell phones and emails family life intrude into the work place

 

12. The authority relations in society is changing

Meyrowitz: After 1960: Levelling of male/female, adult/child and leader/follower roles[x]

Jensen: Patriarchate -> WWI -> brotherhood -> WWII -> motherhood[xi]

Kheleelee: WWII Missing fathers/dependency -> failed dependency -> fundamentalism/evangelic leadership[xii]

Schwartz: Postmodernism/PC: Madonna and child and the Sin of the Father[xiii]

 

II. EXCURSUS: Myths, fairytales and metaphors

 

1. Genesis:

Bakan/Hirschhorn: Genesis is describing a change from matrilineal to patrilineal culture. About how to stop fathers from killing their first son and offer lambs etc. instead. Abraham-Isaac, God-Jesus[xiv].

Mono sexual sibling rivalry: Cain and Abe in relation to God, Joseph and his brothers in relation to fathers favouritism of Joseph the next youngest, Jacob and Esau in relation to the right of the first born - one supported  by mother

 

2. Greek mythology:

Oedipus: killing father, marrying mother, his daughter/sister Ismene warns Oedipus about a lethal conflict between his sons/brothers Polynices and Etocles, but Oedipus let them kill each other.

Orestes and Electra: working together to kill their mother Clytemnestra because she has killed their father Agamemnon [xv]

 

3. Fairytales & literature:

Cinderella, Simpleton, King Lear: same sex sibling rivalry

Hansel and Gretel, The Wild Swans: how siblings with different sex cooperate against evil parents

Pairing and competition: A king and a queen has an unmarried daughter (sometimes very hysterical) and calls for suitors. Another family has three sons; the two eldest overdriven useless conformist and the youngest a creative figure with a good heart. He cures and wins the princess and half the kingdom.

 

4. Organizational metaphors:

Monks and nuns are calling themselves brothers and sisters

Secret societies are often calling themselves brotherhoods.

The parole of the French revolution and later the workers movement: liberty, equality and fraternity

Here the point is solidarity by giving up competition for parental power

The royal family is often used as metaphors for organizational processes: the crown prince, king, queen etc.

The concept of heritage is also often used

 

III A. Extended group and family dynamics

 

1. From Oedipus to extended group and family dynamics

To make family dynamics applicable to organizations and psychodynamic system theory in a boarder sense it is needed to extend the amount of key concepts from those linked to the Oedipus complex and include: siblings, the change of relations over time: the generational shift and the society - especially the other family and the other group. This opens for a lot of complexity and combinations and there is no obvious place to stop. This calls for a more general theory of differences and positions in group and family dynamics.[xvi]

 

III B. Extended group and family dynamics - Sketch to a general theory of differences and positions in group and family dynamics.

 

1. Point of departure

When the mother and child relation is satisfying, the child feels at one with the mother, omnipotent and complete or whole

When the relation changes to ‘bad breast’ the child feels helpless, dependent, fragmented, incomplete, anxious etc. There is a lack where the good breast should have been. The child envies the ‘good breast’ and attacks to rob it

 

2. General pattern

This pattern: 1) feeling whole and complete, 2) experiencing difference and dependency of what one have not: feeling incomplete, 3) becoming envious and defensive, 4) working through and feeling gratitude - could be used as a general model for family related differences: good breast/no breast, male/female, adult/child, parentship/no parentship etc.

 

3. Differences, lacks and possessions

Differences are generally denied or overestimated. Invested with meaning which they doesn’t have or robbed from any meaning at all. Growing up could be seen as a ongoing confrontation with differences which leaves you with a lack of something you are dependent of. Those differences are insults to your narcissism or your wish to be complete and whole. The anxieties raised from this experience calls for defences.

 

4. Interdependency and identification with the whole

The learning it takes to be mature, is to realise that your are not complete, you are dependent on others - and others are depending on you.

Complete is only the reproduction system as a whole - in which you can play a part.

The individual experience of wholeness is only available by identification with the system as a whole[xvii].

 

5. The burden of differences

Freedom from differences seems - even if it is an illusion - to be a deep wish

Chasseguet-Smirgel[xviii]: The anal universe, where the oedipal polarities, and thereby the need to develop, is denied, holds an perverse attraction.

Freud[xix]: to fuse with the preoedipal mother or living in the womb is connected with tension free pleasure and also with death, the Nirvana principle and the oceanic feeling.

Cannetti[xx]: the feeling of oneness in the crowd is often a joyful break from the stress full dealing with differences in society and its subgroups.

 

III C. Basic concepts of extended group and family dynamics

 

1. The Oedipus complex

The Oedipus complex consists of a parental couple and a child. From the boy's point of view the father is possessing the desired object: the mother. The boy then identifies with the father and wants to take over his position. The resulting feelings are jealousy hate and idealization as an acknowledgement of the fathers' superior power and status as an ideal or 'role model'. The hate leads to the passive fear of punishment and retaliation just like the idealization leads to a wish for acknowledgment from the father. [xxi]

 

2. The couple relation

Part of the family dynamics is also the relation between the mother and father. You can't learn much about this from psychoanalysis, but there is a rich material listed under psychodynamic marital or couple therapy and family therapy. [xxii]

 

3. Siblings

When you add siblings[xxiii] to the Oedipal triangle more complex patterns of competition and alliances enters the surface.

The advent of a sibling is basically traumatic, a threat to existence, annihilation fear and hate and annihilation wishes are primary feelings.

The group feeling, the 'esprit de corps' and the claim for 'social justice' is a reaction formation against this hate. [xxiv]

 

4. Sibling alliances and rivalry

Combining the sibling dynamic with the Oedipus dynamics reveals family dynamics with a double tension: the child is competing with/hating the one parent and loves the other and at the same time it loves and competes with the siblings:

the ongoing conflict between the wish to be the preferred child and the wish to be part of the sibling clan.[xxv]

 

5. Sex differences and sibling alliances and rivalry

In accordance with the 'interests' in the Oedipus complex

rivalry is mostly occurring between same sex siblings

alliances is mostly occurring between different sex siblings

 

6. The promoted sibling from above

The sibling who is promoted from above takes the position of middle manager in the family. He or she takes the role of a parent without being a parent and without getting access to the desired object. He or she will by the other siblings be seen as a betrayer who goes for to low a price. The promoted sibling becomes target of envy, contempt and devaluation, while those siblings, who are not promoted, sticks together in solidarity and self idealization.[xxvi]

 

7. Group psychology - the other group

Freud's 'formula' of the mass/group:

each group member has projected his or her ego ideal into the leader and identified with each other [xxvii].

The strong feelings of love between members and between members and leader

are a reaction formation to the primary sibling hate.

Addition to Freud: the sibling hate is repressed AND projected into the other group

 

8. The group/mass and the leader

The leader of the group is not - like Freud seems to suggest - a father figure

He/she is a by the siblings promoted sibling leading an attack at the parental power

The leader of the group/mass does seldom appear as part of a couple

 

9. The promoted sibling - from below

The sibling promoted from below takes the role of the rebel, the role of a parent without actually being a parent and without getting access to the desired object. He or she is  seen a saver or a hero and is lowering the distance to the desired object by pervert, illusionist/creative efforts. He or she becomes idealized and in the group of supporting siblings self idealization and melting together occurs. The hate and aggression is directed more or less openly towards the parental level and at the other group.

 

10. The other family

It is often forgotten that to get your self a non incestuous love object the existence and the interchange with other families are required.

Like the group needs another group the family needs another family. The other group and the other family are both resources and competitors - love objects and rivals.

 

11. The law of father and the law of mother

Juliet Mitchell has introduced the concept of mothers law[xxviii].

All must be equally loved by their father, but before they are equal in their sameness to each other for their father, children must be equal in their difference for their mother.

Exercising mother’s law means containing the hate between siblings, helping every one to find his or her own identity and ensuring that there is room for all.

 

12. Democracy and brotherhood

The democratic constitution could be seen as a combination of fathers and mothers laws. Every citizen is equal to the law and everyone is free to be different as longs as it doesn't hurt other citizens. In this way the democratic constitution is a substitute for the parents. The constitution makes it possible for the children/citizens to keep the sibling hate at bay/cooperate and compete whit out violence.

 

13. The generational shift

When sibling dynamics are added to the Oedipus complex the relation between the complex and the generational shift becomes obvious. The generational shift is the focus point in the family dynamics and even if it is a natural phenomenon it is, because it stirs up all kinds of powerful and early primitive emotions, always a challenge for all involved parts. If the parents hasn't made a good preparation the sibling rivalry will explode, even if the sibling are mature citizens and known for being calm and disciplined[xxix].

 

14. The organizational molecule

Jaques organizational molecule[xxx] is a three level hierarchy imbedded in which are the core dynamics of hierarchies: the manager is accountable to the manager-once-removed for his own work and for the work of his subordinate, and he manages his subordinate within terms of reference set by the manager-once-removed. The underlying family dynamics is the tree level family hierarchy: parents M/F, promoted sibling M/F and the rest of the children M/F.

 

15. Double love and double hate

The combination of oedipal and siblings dynamics operates with double love and double hate relations. In this regard the important issue for analysis of social systems is to find both the two love relations and the two hate relations - which can be displaced in many ways.

 

16. Creativity

1) initiatory creativity - Ps: mother and child as fused omnipotent unit [xxxi](Halton),

2) reparative creativity - D: the child tries to repair the damaged mother [xxxii] (Halton)

3) oedipal creativity - identification and competition with same sex parent [xxxiii] (Freud)

4) sibling rivalry (related to the Oedipus complex)

5) evolutionary creativity - the creative couple who create out of gratitude [xxxiv](Meltzer, Halton)

6) perversion as a pseudo creativity [xxxv] (Chassegeut-Smirgel)

7) creativity emerging from the whish the heal a wound or fill a hole in the self (Hirschhorn, Wilke[xxxvi])

8) 'creativity' motivated in returning humiliation - out of revenge [xxxvii].

 

17. Mother and child (the apprehension of beauty)

Beauty shouldn't be misunderstood as the latency version: beauty as perfect surface.

When the newborn baby comes into the light it sees the ordinary beautiful mother: face with eyes and breasts with nipples, an experience of passion. It soon realise that behind the surface is all kinds of pleasure but also al kinds of bad things like hunger, more babies etc. While the outside of the beautiful mother is available to the senses the inside must be constructed by creative imagination.

When the mother looks into the eyes of the baby she sees all the fantastic good things the baby can become. When the baby looks into the mothers eyes it captures that vision[xxxviii].

 

18. The preoedipal mother

The image of the preoedipal mother is split in two:

1) The source of joy, pleasure, satisfaction and harmony

2) The omnipotent ruler of life and death

 

19. The father on different developmental stages

Possession of phallus gives access to the mother[xxxix]

Phallus is a tool for creation and a weapon for protection[xl]

Phallus is idealised as a defence against the power of the preoedipal mother[xli]

The father and his penis is needed for preconception

 

20. The dissociated and collusive sexuality in latency (phallic/anal)

BOYS - lived and expressed/GIRLS - repressed and projected:

competitive brain/body, aggressive, occupied with strength and genital sex (in an anal way), perpetrator

GIRLS - lived and expressed/BOYS - repressed and projected:

caring, empathic, tender, romantic and occupied with beauty (in an contra anal way: purity), victim[xlii]

 

IV. 28 hyphotesis on open and hidden family dynamics in organizations

 

Hierarchy and transference

 

1. Different transferences at middle managers and top leaders

While the transferences at top leaders are idealizations (good or evil) drawing from mother and father figures[xliii] and the image of the creative couple[xliv], the transference at middle managers are devaluation drawing on the image of the sibling promoted by the parents[xlv]. An idealised middle manager is drawing on the image of the sibling who has been promoted from below and is leading the followers in an attack at the top leader[xlvi].

 

2. The top leader and the vision

The top leader shall hold the vision in his/her eyes looking at followers.

 

3. Creativity can be prevented but not controlled

Creativity builds on combination of different things. While the process of making love is available for the senses the process of preconception is not, it's invisible both for the creative couple and for others. To be creative in this way you have to get in contact with the riches of tradition and find new ways to combine things - like the two strings of DNA.

 

4. Creative imagination, mystery and management of projections

The authority mystification[xlvii] (Meyrowitz) and impression management[xlviii] (Goffman) is two non psychoanalytic concepts coined to describe how the projections of others to a certain extend can be managed or lead. When people realize that quantity and surface is only a part of the whole, creative imagination as well as projection and transference about what is inside begins. Eyes and language and actions that stimulates mystery and imagination: projective spaces and perceptual traces are used[xlix]. It is important not to reveal all which is inside, partly because it could damage your image and partly because it leaves no place for mystery if all is revealed[l].

 

5. Top leader role associated with being part of the creative couple

A hidden dynamic behind the aspiration for the top leader role is the wish for being a part of the parental couple and create out of gratitude. When the aspirant gets into the role he or she either gets in contact with the internal creative couple or realize, that there is no other half hidden in the office … and feels lonely at the top.

 

6. Top leader - consultant/coach as the creative couple

The fantasy behind the top leaders whish for and the expectations to a coach/consultant is to find the other part of the creative couple. The one who has what I don't have but needs to make a 'baby'. The well bounded privacy around the coaching/consultation room elicit projections and fantasies like the parents bedroom.

 

7. Consultants represent split off male or female parts of the creative couple.

The consultant represent split off parts of the creative couple. Some leaders identify with one of the parts in the split between task and people orientated leaders. To take actions with an overt aggressive content like cutting down or firing people a male consultant is send for - like lady Macbeth had to ask God for help 'Lord unsex me!' when she felt, that political killings was necessary. While the female connotated HR-function or the psychologist department is mobilised when care and reparation is needed.

 

8. Top leaders transferences at followers

If the top leader is identifying with the creative couple the followers is representing a way to transcendent death - gratitude as a 'wish to return goodness received'[li]. If the leader hasn't come to terms with his or her 'midlife crises'[lii], then the envy of the possibilities of the younger followers and the fear of their envy and oedipal strivings, which he/she knows from own experience, will inspire an revengeful leadership style. This transferences makes it difficult to deal with the fact that each of the children has a legitimate wish to become a part of a creative couple and that only one can take his or her place - or in other words to execute the combined laws of father and mother.

 

9. The middle manager's transference at followers

The middle manager often experience a split between leaders and followers. Should he or she identify with the parents and be the target of the hate from the betrayed siblings or with the siblings and take the risk of degradation. Or can he or she find an external object to direct the hate against. He or she knows very well, that he or she is not so much better than the siblings and to secure a safe distance he or she often feels tempted to infantilize the siblings or to pretend, that the difference doesn't matter at all.

 

10. Parent-sibling dynamics as drivers and barriers related to ambition

The parent-sibling dynamics constitutes a general dilemma: ambition has inherent in it competition and puts there by sibling loyalty, loyalty to parents or both at stake.

 

Groupformation and family dynamics

 

11. Gender based group formation as a defence

The emphasis of gender or sex difference serves as a defence against anxieties related to internal competition in the same sex group and against envy and fear of envy related to the parental couple[liii]. Keeping the two sexes apart is the parents way of preventing competing creativity.

 

12. Polarization between men and women as a collusion

The emphasis of sex differences some times takes the shape of a collusion related to the dissociated sexuality in latency - which according to Kernberg[liv] is also the sexuality of public life[lv].

 

13. Conventional masculinities and feminities as polarised anal/phallic fixation

At the anal/phallic stage in latency the riddle of conception is still not solved and the young boys and girls identifies with their same sex adult figures by their surface attributes. Quantity and surface is all there is. Sexuality is dissociated with an underlying anal colouring. Intercourse is dirty like farting and shit and associated with battle and aggression, while tenderness and romance is clean as the 'after' section of a washing powder commercial and associated with peace and harmony. The morale is a black/white concept like movies for children and the conventional discourses in public life[lvi].

 

14. The denial of the sex difference as a defence

The emphasis on gender or sex equality (the reduction of sex difference to culture and power) is a defence against the experience of envy at what the other sex has but you don't have and at the creative couple - narcissistic rage because of not being complete[lvii].

 

Gender differences and regression

 

15. Men often forget why they compete

Some men work to get access to the universe of the preoedipal mother, which is an illusive universe. This is beside a secret and some times men forget why they work and engage themselves in obsessive competition whit each other[lviii].

 

16. The feminine mystique

Some women identify with the mother in the universe of the preoedipal mother, her magic, power and completeness (the feminine mystique, Betty Freidan). It is - as mentioned - an illusion, and from this point of view it has as the secret precondition, that the husband keeps reality, hard work and danger at bay. Real work in the real world becomes a dilemma for the woman, because it contradicts the identification with the primordial mother[lix].

 

17. Powerful leaders identify with the preoedipal mother

The traditional pattern of men competing on doing brave and fantastic things and women competing on being most beautiful seems in modern societies to hide more than it reveals. I hard to overestimate the power of the image of the preoedipal mother who without any noise reigns over life and death, joy and pleasure and terrifying anxiety and persecution. Powerful leaders don't raise their voice or use their physical strength, they have men with tools and weapons to do the work.

 

18. Cinderella and Simpleton knew - their siblings didn't

If women believes that men compete as men and men believe that women don't compete either of them has understood the games. The stereotypes of male competition has to do with overt and measurable skills and possessions: biggest, strongest and fastest, while the stereotype of female competition is that only failures compete. Women needs to develop abilities to compete in an invisible way. At the end of the day men needs to do the same, since organizational power is about building up support and alliances and finding the right moment in the right situation.

 

Work and family

 

19. Work- and leader roles related to value as love object.

There seems to be some empirical evidence for that pairing usually takes place between a man who is older, higher, earns more and have more status than the woman[lx]. That leaves at least a partner problem for high performing women and low performing men, but since the pattern seems rather irrational it calls for psychological explanation. One question is about if men can't love (becomes frightened of) women with more power than themselves or if women can't love men with less power than them selves.

 

20. Age, gender and competitive advantage

Since the educational system groups boys and girls at same age in the same groups the pattern of male status superiority in pairing has as a consequence, that girls and women pays attention to boys and men upwards in the system and make boys and men at the same level feel invisible - until they turn their head downwards and look into the admiring eyes of the younger girls and women. This gives girls and women an advantage in competitive power related to same age boys and men, since relationships to older boys or men gives access to important information in social life as well as work life. This inequality loose some of its power later in life, partly of pure mathematical reasons and maybe also related to the inequalities related to pregnancy and age based limitations to female fertility.

 

21. Family and work - a collusion between sociotopes

The links between the social and geographical divided work and family is money and more or less unconscious motives. The workplace becomes carrier of what is conventional male and the home carries what is conventional female. Two grey green plants in the workplace reception and at home all traces of work exiled to the garage, cellar or home office. The family sociotope becomes the place where work life success or failure is expressed whit out any relation to work, while it in a way is considered sinful (protestantic ethics, lean, cost reduction etc.) to link beauty to the workplace.

 

22. Family and work - reintegration in the post-modern area

In the post-modern area the boundaries between family and workplace seems to be in an ongoing restructuring process. Work stations and management discourses invading home and mixing of gender and emotionalization/feminization at work. Men and women can discuss children, cooking and cleaning in the breaks at work while husband and wife can discuss work life issues at the dinner table. Some kind of reintegration is taking place. This increases possibilities for mutual leaning and help and at the same time it increases possibilities for comparison and thereby competition.

 

23. From task, time and territory to constant inter group events

The new technology to a certain extend undermines the idea of bounded situations. People are more or less always present in two simultaneous situations and carries therefore tensions from both, or uses one to get rid of tension from the other.

 

24. Family and work - serving and leading two organizations

The changes in family and organizations produce a situation where the individual man and woman is serving two organization. In the old model: man as provider - woman as housekeeper - both parts could do their best to obtain mutual benefit. To day progress in one carrier can undermine the other.

 

25. Family as shaper of ambition and evaluation group

The children are forming their ambitions by identification or counter identification with parents and by the need to find different identity profiles among the siblings. The parents supply with projections of their own needs and wishes[lxi].

In this context of competition as well as in-group feeling the family members are ongoing evaluating each others performance. The family as the first 'organization in the mind' influence the individual member both as a living and as an internal evaluation group[lxii].

 

OTHER ISSUES

 

26. Self-governing groups - the return of the promoted sibling

Self-governing groups has their point of departure in the wish to get rid of the evil located at the middle manager, who in classic industry holds the evil in the organization while the people at the floor stick together. After the middle manager has gone he or she returns as a ghost in form of the trouble to manage in the authority vacuum in the group. Sibling rivalry is the hidden dynamics. Whit out containing authority from the top leader no one dares to take initiative because of the hate and envy a 'look alike' middle manager will receive[lxiii].

 

27. Divorce and remarriage as the hidden family dynamics behind fusion and fission

The hidden family dynamics behind fusion and fission is the hopes and fears connected to divorce and remarriage. The bonds of loyalty of the employees are tied to the old parental couple, guilt feelings and efforts to repair goes to the excluded parents, and anger and hate is directed against the new partner and his or her employees - often expressed in sabotage and hiding of knowledge for the new children/employees[lxiv].

 

28. Political correctness as a defence

Political correctness seems - because of the prefix - to be something else than correctness, truth. Prejudice used to be the concept for political incorrectness - a group psychological phenomenon where a group holds ideas about another group which are incorrect, either because they don’t know better or because they ignore the truth[lxv]. PC is a judgemental culture which establish a fixation in the paranoid schizoid position. Fear of wrongdoing and of being excluded undermines curiosity and search for knowledge as preconditions for learning. Unwanted experience cannot be explored and worked with and are forced to live under the surface.

 

29. Temporary conclusion

By using extended family and group dynamic thinking and placing the gender issue in a wider context it has become clear, that men and women don't think, feel and behave the same way in all situations and that they don't have one single coherent picture of what either their own or the other sex is about. Just like men are different and women are different each man and woman has different experiences during life with being one sex and dealing with the two sexes. These experiences are called upon in different situations, some times very regressive and loaded with powerful emotions some times more integrated.

 

V. Methodology

 

1. A qualitative investigation by semi-structured interviews

Interviews with top leaders, middle managers and people at the floor

Interview guide:      

Use open questions

Follow up with:

-           ' could you say some more about that',

-           'could you give an example' etc.

Try to elicit stories

 

2. Guide for questioning

Could you tell me something about your position in the organization

Could you tell me something about your CEO

Could you tell me something about your middle manager

Could you tell me something about employees

Could you tell me something about your colleagues on same level

What is to your experience a good leader (top, middle ....

How do you feel about being a leader

How do you feel about being subordinate/employee

Why do you work - beside getting food and housing

What part does your work and position play in      your marriage/love life

Have you any ideas and experiences about male/female leaders

What role did and does your childhood family play for your choice of education and work role

How does your childhood family look at your work life to day

 

3. Situational variance

As a consequence of the finding, that people seems to perceive gender and

leadership matters different in different situations the project has developed a new

methodology: situational variance which means, that the same questions is asked

in different situations: individual, in both homogeneous and mixed groups according

to position and gender and at last in couples (love relations) - and by interviewers

with different gender

 

4. Working with the material

The interview will be tape recorded, Tran scripted and discussed and interpreted in

research teams with both genders represented.

 

The teams will be looking for:

The discursive subject[lxvi] (Hallway & Jefferson): discourses about leadership, gender and generativity

The defended subject[lxvii] (Hallway & Jefferson): those places in the elicited stories where the meaning has disappeared[lxviii], which indicate underlying unconscious material, to identify unconscious fantasies and patterns of defence

Family dynamic scenes (Lorenzer)[lxix] or 'family basic assumptions' (Bion)[lxx] acted out in organizational situations

Links between work place and home

 

VI. Perspectives

Material to help leaders, consultants and workers to

- avoid stereotyping and simplistic distribution of victim-perpetrator roles

- establish a reflective/interpretive stance to family dynamics in organizations

- elicit patterns, scenes and 'family basic assumptions' to extend the interpretive repertoire for as well role analysis and supervision as consulting to groups and organization

- or to make a potential space for organizational creativity

 

Notes:



[i] The concept 'generativity' is related to Chasseguet-Smirgel (1984) and Eriksson's work (1950) and refers to creativity and succession in the exchange between generation

[ii]  According to Exodic's study published in 1992 (Brotherridge & Lee 2006) 90% of American businesses were family owned and operated. Brotherridge & Lee (2006) has reported a study comparing Work Environment Scale (WES) with Beavers Self-Report Family Instrument (BIF) used on 204 government employees. They found enough statistical significance to support the hypothesis, that structures of families and organizations has some kind of congruence.

[iii] Hirschhorn 2003

[iv] Armstrong 2005

[v] Nik Chmiel (Ed.) Work and Organizational Psychology. Malden, Massachusetts: Blackwell Publ. 2000.

[vi] Theories on motivation: Maslow etc

[vii] Family dynamic are downplayed but not excluded in Bion's Experience in groups (1961), Rice and Miller (1967) didn't use family dynamics in the classic group relation model, on the other hand Hirshhorn and Gilmore (1980) wrote on using concepts from family therapy in organizations, and Shapiro and Carr (1991) did a book on the psychodynamic connections between individuals, families, organizations and societies.

[viii] Hirschhorn 1998

[ix] Hochschild 2001

[x] Meyrowitz 1985

[xi] Jensen 2006

[xii] Khaleelee 2004

[xiii] Schwartz 2001

[xiv] Hirschhorn 2002

[xv] Hinshelwood 2006

[xvi] Visholm 2006a, 2006b, 2005a, 2005b

[xvii] Totalitarian societies usually identify with a whole to which something doesn't belong and has to be excluded. The whole of the totalitarian society is at the end of the day a part, that cannot tolerate not being complete. Freud (????) has the point, that we have a double existence, partly as mortal individuals, and partly as the infinite life of biosubstance handed over from generation to generation.

[xviii] Chasseguet-Smirgel 1984

[xix] Freud

[xx] Canetti 1984

[xxi] Freud, Britton 1998

[xxii] Dicks 1967, Jakobsen & Visholm 1987, Ruszczynski 1993

[xxiii] Wilke 1998, Mitchell 2003, Cole 2003, Visholm  2006a, 2006b, 2005a, 2005b

[xxiv] Freud 1921

[xxv] Coles 2003, Sanders 2004 

[xxvi] Visholm 2005a, 2005b, 2006a

[xxvii] Freud 1921

[xxviii] Mitchell 2003

[xxix] Winnicott 1971

[xxx] Jaques 1976

[xxxi] Halton 2004

[xxxii] Klein, Segal, Halton 2004

[xxxiii] Freud

[xxxiv] Meltzer 1990, Meltzer & Williams 1988, Halton 2004

[xxxv] Chassegeut-Smirgel 1984

[xxxvi] Hirschhorn 2001, Binney et. al. 2003

[xxxvii] Volkan 2004

[xxxviii] Meltzer & Williams 1988

[xxxix] Schwartz 2001

[xl] Meltzer & Williams 1988

[xli] Chasseguet-Smirgel, Torok

[xlii] Kernberg 1995

[xliii] Gabriel & Hirschhorn 1999

[xliv] Meltzer & Williams 1988, Halton 2004

[xlv] Visholm  2006a, 2006b, 2005a, 2005b

[xlvi] Visholm  2006a, 2006b, 2005a, 2005b

[xlvii] Meyrowitz 1985

[xlviii] Goffman 1959

[xlix] Meltzer & Williams 1988, Visholm 1993

[l] At an MPO working conference the theme was 'Leadership, gender and creativity'. In one session men and women was divided in two mono sex groups and asked to tell each other stories about experiences related to the theme. During the organizational event a lot of mutual curiosity was expressed and steps were taken to set up a sex mixed fish bowl where stories could be exchanged. A female participant sadly realized, that it wouldn't be the same way stories were told, when women were present. She realized that she would never know what men are talking about, when there are no women present. It seemed like she also felt a bit relieved, knowing that there would always be a little unknown mystery about men. Another observation reported by a female consultant was, that men in mixed groups that were totally open seemed to be seen as boring, while men who kept small secret spaces in their conversations about the theme had a quite attentive female audience.

some sessions

[li] Halton 2004, Klein

[lii] Jaques 1990

[liii] In writings like for example Paula Nicolson (1996) and Vivian Burr (2003) this splitting between goodhearted women and bad men is obvious; all men seems to like each other and stick together to suppress women, just like women have no conflicts or competition between them, and are united as victims. Mats Alvesson and Yvonne Due Billing (1997) are very much aware that focus on gender very easy seems to establish a simplistic in-group/out-group dynamic.

[liv] Kernberg 1995

[lv] At an OPU working conference a mixed sex research group from the MPO had been aloud to make observations in Auditorium 2, one of the authorized rooms in the inter group event. I happened that a mono sex group (men only) established themselves in that room. It was presumed by all parts of the conference - including the male group, that these men would use a 'typical male' language with quite some explicit sexual references. The interesting thing was, that the group of observers noted, that the only use of 'typical male' language and sexual references was done by visiting women (Birkholm et. al. 2006). Men and women colluded so strongly in preserving the traditional split up between masculinities and feminities, that the women had to help the men being dirty.

[lvi] Kernberg 1995

[lvii] Chasseguet-Smirgel (2005) is arguing against the French inspired American feminist movement represented by writers as Monique Witting, Judith Butler, Donna Haraway etc. who is 'destructing differences' and 'rebelling against the biological order'.

[lviii] Schwartz 2001

[lix] Schwartz 2001, Chassegeut-Smrigel 1980a, 1980b, Torok 1980

[lx] Borchorst, Anette, Løgstrup & Carlsen

[lxi] Experience from psychotherapy and role analysis (Leicester, OPU and other places) strongly support this idea. Working with triangulation between participants ways of choosing and taking up roles in primary and secondary family, the work organization and the actual conference dynamics, seems to provide rather powerful learning opportunities for participants.

[lxii] Hirschhorn 2003

[lxiii] Visholm  2006a, 2006b, 2005a, 2005b

[lxiv] Gilkey 1991

[lxv] Schwartz 2001, Huffington 2006

[lxvi] Hallway & Jefferson 2005

[lxvii] Hallway & Jefferson 2005

[lxviii] Gabriel 1999, French & Simpson 2006

[lxix] Lorenzer 1970

[lxx] Bion 1961

 

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